So. It’s been a busy workweek, leaving me no time to post. Tomorrow I should be able to get back to Thessalonians. In the meantime, I have a little free time, but this afternoon I have a session I’m really not looking forward to. I have to be a “good counselor” and listen patiently, when what I really want to do is grab this poor unfortunate soul by the cheeks, make him look at me, shut up, and listen! I really don’t care how he feels about much of anything, because his emotions are all centered on himself. That kind of focus will surely lead to depression and other miseries, which he will then blame on all the people around him who don’t understand (read “agree with”) how he feels about the way he’s being treated. Which, by the way, is with a great deal more patience and forbearance than he would get if he lived in my house!
So I’ve been thinking about what this young man really needs to hear. This is my list:
1. No one died and made you the sheriff of the whole world.
2. No, the universe does NOT revolve around you.
3. You need, more than anything, to just get over yourself.
4. You need to apologize to your family for what you’re putting them through with your obsession with yourself, your feelings, your desires, and what you consider to be your rights.
5. No, an iPhone is NOT a right. It is a privilege. You lost it because of your 3D personality.
6. What’s 3D personality? Disobedient, Disrespectful, Dishonest. These behaviors come packaged together, with a neat little Buy One Get Two Free label.
Parents, I wish I could speak with every one of you because if you have one of these entitled, self-important people living in your house, you need to understand that we do indeed teach people how to treat us. They behave the way they do because it works for them. Parents have given up their power to try to appease these little ghouls who feed off the guilt and psychobabble that parents have absorbed in their efforts to make sure the child is never unhappy. These kids can’t ever hear “NO!” or they may feel bad about themselves.
I wish more of them DID feel bad about themselves, because they ARE bad! We’re so messed up in this ridiculous child-centered society. Don’t you understand that you never have to teach a child to be selfish, throw a tantrum, lie, or be otherwise horrible? They already know how to do all those things. Our job is to teach them to think of others, to control their angst, to behave with courtesy and respect to the other members of their families. These are traits we all admire, but we seem to feel helpless to demand them from our kids. We work our fingers to the bone to provide them with everything they think they need, and then when they turn on us and snarl and snap, we’re just shocked and hurt. After all, look at all we’ve done for them!
The problem is, we’ve missed the boat. Instead of training their character to be upright, outwardly focused, and godly we’ve taught them that they deserve anything they want, and that parents are a temporary inconvenience they have to put up with until they can leave the nest and REALLY start to live. And do you know what happens when these benighted youngsters do leave? Yup, you got it–they come back. They come back because the boss didn’t appreciate how valuable they were, and now they don’t have a paycheck. Or they come back because the school they attend expected them to actually DO something about getting their grades, and they just can’t tolerate having anything expected of them.
Yes, I understand that in today’s economy they may have no other place to go, blahblahblah. But you know what? If they didn’t have the safety net of mom and pop, whose lives become one long misery when Junior plops his laundry back in Mom’s lap, they’d figure out something else. Maybe they’d go on the dole, which is a whole ‘nother topic for a rant.
Ok, I think I’m done for now. Maybe I should have titled this post “Rant #2.” I’m sure there will be more.