Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go:
Lest thou learn his ways, and get a snare to thy soul.
Anger is a dreadful habit. It makes the angry person miserable; it scares small children and animals, and it makes him impossible to please.
Nothing is ever good enough for an angry person. Critical, negative, nit-picking and explosive, their anger often degenerates into physical violence as well as verbal, emotional, mental and spiritual abuse.
The only antidote I know for anger is to identify the cause, pray, and forgive the hurt that caused the anger. It is not necessary for anyone to be controlled by someone else’s anger, especially once they become old enough to leave the home of the angry person.
There is so much that I could say about all this. It’s a deep and abiding problem, and there are people who feel they have a right to what they call righteous indignation. And yes, there are things we should be angry about. Abortion. Sex trafficking. Drug and alcohol abuse. Political abuse. There’s a very long list, actually. But none of these things give us an excuse to blow up like Vesuvius, pouring molten lava all over the people around us.
Solomon said we could entangle ourselves in a snare. The word snare is used to describe controlling an animal by putting a hook in its nose! That is what anger can become to us—it hooks us by the nose and leads us where we should not go.
It’s never smart to allow emotions to lead our thinking and behavior.
Don’t spend time with an angry person. You’ll start to act just like he does.
2 thoughts on “A Snare to the Soul”
Oh my. Lady, you are spot on again. When my depression hit me at age 40, after my sweet husband and I had been married for 2 years, I guess I felt safe and all my stuffed pain from all kinds of abuse over my lifetime started bubbling out in the form of anger. My poor Ronnie felt like if he made me so unhappy maybe he should just leave. Gasp! I honestly did not realize what was going on and went directly into depression and unstoppable emotional tears. Of course, I knew I needed help. Thank goodness, it saved our marriage and helped me to heal. One thing I still say is, “Hurt people, hurt people” when we do not realize the root of the anger and do not do the work it takes to heal. He even went to some counseling sessions with me so he could understand more and learned about triggers. That counseling helped me to realize lots of things about the human psyche and what happens to the mind and body when we “stuff” things. It will all come out eventually. Then I came back to a right relationship with my Lord Jesus Christ and I grew and healed by leaps and bounds. Do I still have sad moments? Of course. As long as I am in this human flesh, it is what it is. But I now know that I do not have to stay there and I can talk with my Saviour and my best friend and feel better.
Some of us were brought up to not cry or let ourselves feel sadness, but strangely, anger was okay. How very hurtful that is to everyone involved. Thank you so much for the time and effort you spend here. I just know you are helping so many. God bless you dear lady. I keep your health issues in my prayers. And, congrats on the retirement. My health forced me into retirement about 6 years ago. It does get better as we figure out a new routine and structure. And it seems you are doing that. Blessings! Anna ❤
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thank you, Anna, for sharing part of your story. I’m so glad you found good help, and that you husband stayed the course instead of blaming himself and leaving. Depression is multi-layered, and it takes time, patience, and great honesty to uncover all the things at the root of anger that boils over into depression.
Thanks for your encouragement over the years.