Eccl. 7: 25-26
I applied mine heart to know, and to search, and to seek out wisdom, and the reason of things, and to know the wickedness of folly, even of foolishness and madness:
And I find more bitter than death the woman, whose heart is snares and nets, and her hands as bands: whoso pleaseth God shall escape from her; but the sinner shall be taken by her.
Isn’t it interesting that a man who had 300 wives and 700 concubines is so cynical about women? Well, let’s back up a little bit.
First, in v. 25, Solomon declares his continuing effort to understand life. Even though he had asked God for wisdom, apparently he didn’t feel God’s generous answer was quite enough. He spends 14 chapters in this book trying to figure out life and the purpose of it. And here, he suddenly veers into what he has discovered about women. He concludes that most of them aren’t to be trusted, and that a man whose heart is to serve God will escape from an ungodly woman. An ungodly man, however, will not escape from the woman who leads him away from God.
We know it was customary in Solomon’s day for kings to marry the daughters of neighboring kingdoms, in order to form political alliances. I’m glad I didn’t live then or belong to a royal family, where your fate depended on the state of affairs with some other nation. In any case, that practice was the source of some of Solomon’s marriages.
However, he has to accept the responsibility for the size of his harem, and his alliances with women who worshipped other gods, and who led him into their idolatrous practices. That was purely his own choice, and he certainly paid the price for his lack of wisdom.
There is an important lesson here for Christian young people. We don’t have harems in America, and our young women are not used to seal alliances with anyone. But it is still possible for Christian young men to become involved with girls who do not love God, and to be led away from a righteous path by those girls.
My parents warned us strongly about not dating unsaved guys, and I never did. Terry was not yet a Christian when we met, and we didn’t date until after I was sure he was a true believer. Our lives have been blessed, and I believe that, in part, it is because we have made choices based on the wisdom of God’s Word.