My mother would have been nearly 92 today. Her birthday was May 16. She was 87 when she went to heaven.
I’ve been thinking about the biblical Eve. Wondering how she learned to be a mother; wondering if Adam and Eve came packaged with the instinct to be parents.
I’ve wondered especially how she dealt with the guilt she must have felt after eating that forbidden fruit and being expelled from their earthly paradise; and again, what must have been in her heart and mind when her first son killed her second son in a fit of jealousy and rage.
Surely she grieved the death of Abel, as any mother would grieve, I can only imagine her broken-hearted sobbing as they buried Abel, and waited to see what God would do with Cain.
There were no self-help books back then to guide her step-by-step through her process. There wasn’t a Bible. There weren’t any counselors with detailed training on grief and loss. She had Adam. Even better, she had God.
We know she went on to have many more children. Some researchers, using biblical genealogy lists, estimate that Adam could have fathered at least 50 children, possibly more. We don’t know if all of them were also Eve’s children, but we can be fairly certain that she mothered several more after Abel died.
So how did she do that? How did she go on, probably for at least a couple more hundred years, and provide the nurturing required of her? As time passed and her children had children of their own, how did she know what it was to be a grandmother? A great-grandmother? She had no pattern set by her own mother or grandmother. No example to follow.
We have to remember that Eve, before she sinned, was the perfect woman. Unmatched in intellect, wisdom, and a personal knowledge of God.
And right there is the answer to all my questions. God did not remove Himself from relationship with Adam and Eve after they sinned. He did set boundaries that hadn’t existed until after they sinned, and the fellowship they had with Him changed. There were no more walks with God in the Garden in the cool of the evening.
There was, however, prayer. Direct-to-God, no mediator needed, heartfelt, seeking, sometimes desperate prayer. I believe both Adam and Eve were perhaps the best pray-ers who ever lived. After all, they had known God personally. Their experience with Him was unique, their understanding of Him different from all those who came after them. I believe that He taught her what she needed to know, and/or guided her through the hard places when she didn’t know what to do.
Wisdom, after all, comes from God. Then, now, and always.
James 1:5.”If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.”