The myth for today on this subject is that those who abuse boys are homosexuals. If you try to follow the logic on this one, you’re going to get all twisted up. It makes about as much sense as this silly little comic strip:
So let’s take a look at some of the implications of this belief.
First, one must assume that all who sexually abuse boys are males; otherwise, why would a homosexual woman abuse a boy? Wouldn’t she choose a girl instead?
Second, one must assume that women do not abuse boys. This is patently not true. Here’s just one of dozens of websites on this subject: http://kalimunro.com/wp/articles-info/sexual-emotional-abuse/male-sexual-abuse-victims-of-female-perpetrators
But let’s get back t the idea that every man who abuses a boy is a homosexual. We need to be very careful about making these 100% kinds of statements, because some very damaging beliefs can develop from them. One is that a boy who has been sexually abused becomes homosexual. Another is that all homosexual males abuse little boys. Neither of these statements is true 100% of the time. We need to be careful how we use 100% words, like all, every, always, never.
Are there homosexual males who molest young boys? Of course. Are there heterosexual males who abuse young boys? Of course. Do all boys who are molested become homosexuals? No. Do all boys who are molested grow up to become molesters? No. Do either of these things happen sometimes? Sure. But not EVERY time, not ALL the time, not EVERY boy!
So why does anyone molest a young boy?
There are no simple answers here. We need to remember that every human being is born with the nature to sin. That sinful nature is going to manifest in many different ways. One of those ways is to sexually abuse people who are unable to prevent the abuse.
There are several passages in the Bible that express how the sins of the fathers will show up in the children for several generations (Numbers 14:18, for example). The meaning of these verses is not that the children will be punished for their fathers’ sins, but that the same tendency will exist in them as it did in their fathers. That’s one reason generational incest is such a problem. An obsession with pornography, or any other kind of sexual sin, is very often traceable in the family tree.
That doesn’t mean it has to continue. Each of us has the choice to follow the path of evil of the path of righteousness, which is a topic for another post.
There are some common features in those who abuse children:
- A person with power or influence over a child can develop a sexual interest in the child.
- There are no “stops” that keep the adult from improper behavior. It is very easy to convince oneself that it’s okay, because the child didn’t resist; the child actually enjoyed it, and so on.
- The person acts out their sexual fantasies and impulses toward the child, because he/she can’t find an adult who will cooperate; or the person is afraid of rejection, and a child is pretty helpless.
For me, the bottom line here is that Satan is out to destroy whatever God loves; God loves children; therefore, Satan targets children with no end of abominable abuse at the hands of those who have no conscience, and who care only about their own gratification. We call them sociopaths these days. And that, too, is a subject for another post, another day.
Never discount the presence and power of evil in this world.