Counseling Issues Friday: Pornography

It is today’s plague.  It is an epidemic for many reasons:  Magazines, books, movies, television, and especially computer technology, which includes iPhones, iPods, tablets, and so much more. Porn is now available–often for free–with no more than a click of the mouse or a slide of the finger.  We’d like to place the blame on the secular worldview that has engulfed all of us, but I think it goes far deeper than that.

Porn is today’s secret Christian sin.  It can be viewed silently, in the dark, after everyone else is asleep.  In another post, I’m going to offer you some statistics that will, I hope, shock you. There is no escaping this epidemic. The only  way to battle it is with awareness, understanding of the human interest in sex, and the Word of God.

Pastors, teachers, youth leaders, choir directors, deacons and elders and other spiritual leaders can and do become addicted to porn.  I know there is a belief that you can’t become truly addicted, that it’s simply a sin.  We’ll talk about that.

I need to tell you that I don’t want to do this.  However, once again, circumstances have led me to write about something I deplore. Last week, a friend reminded me that I had mentioned this topic as a possible blog series. Then, a day later, someone else asked me when I’m going to write about porn and what to do if someone is involved in watching/reading it.  During my work week, I’ve had three new clients come in and ask for help because porn is wrecking their marriages.

We can’t pretend it’s not a problem for believers.  It’s a HUGE problem for believers!

Parents, please don’t think that if you’re sending your kids to Christian school, they’ll be safe from pornography.  Nothing could be farther from the truth. Never assume that you can trust your kids. You can’t. Rather than hoping it just won’t affect your kids, you need to help them learn to love and fear God. You need to teach them Philippians 4:4-8 so that they know how to think biblically. You need to  watch what they’re reading, check what music is on their iPods, look under their beds and in their dressers. And don’t apologize for doing so. It’s your job to protect them and help them turn from sin.

The best way to protect yourself and your loved ones from evil is to teach them the truth. God’s Word will keep us from the attraction of all that Satan offers.

Please pray for me as I seek God’s leading in handling this topic, and as I research in order to write accurately and clearly.

Next Friday, I’m planning to define what pornography is, and share some statistics with you on who is affected.

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