Counseling Issues: Domestic Violence

Isn’t that a startling picture?  Makes you stop and think, I hope.

It’s a very natural segue to go from discussing anger to discussing domestic violence–another topic, like childhood sexual abuse, that is extremely upsetting to me.  So often, violence as well as rape and childhood sexual abuse are never reported.  The victims feel it is their fault; they are ashamed and afraid of reprisal if they try to get help. Sadly, the legal system is often more traumatic for the victim than the actual violence, because her character and her very right to protect herself are called into question.

Abuse comes in many forms.  Verbal, mental, emotional, physical, sexual–and sometimes all of the above–can bring terror and despair into the heart, mind and soul of the victim. And men are victims, too, more often than you may think.  If a woman is violent, the man can fight back but of course he then risks being accused of assaulting her.

Children are, way too often, the subjects of violence on the part of their parents or other caregivers. There is elder abuse, a particularly horrible  way for a helpless senior citizen to spend his final years. It happens in private homes and nursing facilities, and the victim is often completely without any avenue of escape.

How can so much evil exist in our world?  Well, someone recently asked me that question, and I said, “It’s really not complicated. The less we love God and follow His precepts, the more sin there will be. Less God, more self, sin, and Satan.”

It is NOT God’s fault!  It was never His plan for men to hurt their wives, for parents to abuse their children, for people to kill and destroy that which was created in His own image.  It is the result of our living in a fallen world, and of our turning more and more to secular, godless answers for our problems. We call it “mistakes,”  or “poor choices”  when what we really need to call it is sin.  It amazes me that today, even people who claim to be believers resist calling sin what it is.  When we no longer recognize sin as anything more than a “poor choice,” then we won’t take strong measures to stop it.

All right. This has turned into as much of a rant as an introduction to my next counseling issues topic. See, in my office I have to use  some tact in how I present this idea of calling sin what it is. Here, however, I can say what I want to say, whether or not anyone else is offended.

Does it matter to us that God is offended by our sin? It should!


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