Really, what’s so bad about pornography? I mean, it doesn’t really hurt anyone, and it’s just a bunch of narrow-minded people who are judging everyone else because they think it’s a “sin.” It’s no one else’s business what I do in the privacy of my own home!
Let’s take the “victimless crime” idea first, the idea that it doesn’t really hurt anyone. There’s so much to be said about the other things that it could take more than one post, so this is my starting point.
Victimless? Really? What about the women and men who are photographed, filmed, debased, and used as a money-making commodity? Aside from possible abuse, what do you think it does to their minds, hearts and souls?
Well, but they do this voluntarily! No one is forcing them–it’s their choice!
Really? What about the children?
What about women who are controlled by pimps and drug dealers; by people who beat them, rape them, and sometimes kill them when they are no longer useful? Do you really have your head buried in the sand so deeply that you are unaware of the human sex traffic activity that exists in virtually every population center in this country? Please, do some research. Find out some things:
1. Not everyone involved in the porn industry is there of his own free will.
2. There is no such thing as a victimless crime.
3 Kids who run away from home are often victimized by porn hustlers who are always looking for fresh meat. Sometimes they are kidnapped and drugged, forced against their will to participate in pornographic shoots.
4. Women are rarely in this industry because they want to be. See #3. Yes, there are those who sell their bodies willingly. I’ll never understand that, but I will guarantee you that there has been some sort of sexual/physical abuse in the history of those who agree without coercion to allow their bodies to be used in this way.
5. Don’t be deceived. If you are looking at porn, you are a victim of the porn industry. If you keep it up, you’ll be spending money on it before long. Here are some of the immediate effects of participation in porn:
It creates an unrealistic expectation of sex and sexuality.
It creates a terrible view of and attitude toward women.
It adversely affects your relationship with your spouse. You are hiding what you are doing, and if you masturbate while watching porn, you have less and less interest in your spouse. You are stealing what rightfully belongs to your spouse and using it in a completely selfish manner.
It creates physical problems because you are probably doing porn late at night, losing sleep and creating a sleep-deprivation cycle that will eventually make you sick.
It creates a spiritual problem because, as you become more involved in porn, it becomes an idol for you. It is what you worship. It is what you think about all the time until you can get your next “fix.” It becomes a priority for you. It is idolatry.
Do I need to go on? Anyone who will stop and think about this stuff in a logical, and biblical, manner will have to acknowledge that it is, indeed, sinful.
And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them.
Don’t participate in the barren works that are done under cover of darkness, and that are offered by the evil one who is the lord of darkness. Instead, avoid those behaviors and speak against them (paraphrase by me).
For it is a shame even to speak of those things which are done of them in secret.
This verse doesn’t mean you shouldn’t name the sin and speak against it. It does mean that you shouldn’t be talking about such evil in ordinary conversation, with prurient interest.
More next week. If you are a believer, and you are caught up in porn, please get back into the Word of God; pray that God will strengthen you to relinquish the sin; get some accountability in your life to help you resist the temptation.